In our modern world of stress, pressure and speed, we seem to get less and less time to relax. When we do, very often, we are so stressed and worked up that we cannot relax completely, or enough to give us the rest that we feel we need.

It does not necessarily follow either that someone will be relaxed just because they are in what we might assume to be a relaxing and restful situation, such as:

• Outdoors, with friends, at a barbecue.
• At home, sitting in front of the television, watching the TV.
• In bed, trying to get to sleep.

Whilst these, and many others, are situations where we might assume that they are ideal for relaxation - some people seem to be simply unable to 'switch off'.

Such people sometimes always seem to 'have to be busy', always doing something, anything at all - unable to sit down and 'relax' for even just a few minutes, always on the go, and even when sitting down they might tend to fidget in some way.

And some other people might be able sit down and seemingly 'relax', but inside, in their mind, their mind may be always 'full on', their minds being preoccupied with, for example, thoughts of:

• Maybe something that has happened in the past.
• Or their latest DIY or work project that they are working on.
• Or what they are going to be doing after the current social event that they are at has completed.
• Or their work, that they may be returning to again, the following day.

It might not be that they are particularly worried or anxious about their 'problem', however it does seem that they really do have a difficulty in being 'there' in the 'here and now', in the present, as fully active participants, even when, for example, they are just socialising in the company of maybe friends, colleagues or customers - whoever they are with.

So, is this a problem for these people who simply cannot relax ?

Possibly not, but like so many things in life, moderation in all things is the key.

When the problem of not being able to relax leads to sleepless nights, people can wake up tired and exhausted in the morning, and start to fall asleep during the day, the following day - and lack of sleep can lead to health problems as well as 'just' tiredness and fatigue.

And whilst a difficulty in relaxing may be not too onerous when young, it can become more and more of a problem with the passage of time, as the body becomes older and more frail and less able to keep up with the demands being made on it by the mind.

And the difficulty of not being able to be 'there', in the 'here and now', in the present, enjoying the company of colleagues and friends in social situations, can also lead to increasing frustration with attending such social situations and the eventual withdrawal from meeting colleagues and friends in such social situations, and eventual social isolation.

Is there anything that people who cannot relax can do to help their relaxation ?

There are some methods that some people use from time to time to help their relaxation:

• Physical relaxation techniques:

  • Breathing Techniques: Techniques that incorporate deep abdominal breathing may help to reduce the physical symptoms of depression, anxiety and hypertension as well as everyday emotional symptoms of anger, nervousness and stress.

  • Progressive Muscle Relaxation: is a technique that requires an individual to focus on tensing and holding a certain set of muscles (e.g. the neck). Those muscles are then relaxed to experience a deep sense of relaxation and so reduce the effects of anxiety and sleeplessness brought about by stress. This technique can help people with anxiety who are often always tense throughout the day.

• Mental relaxation techniques:

  • Meditation: Studies have shown that in addition to reducing physiological and psychological stresses placed on your body, individuals who practice meditation have much fewer doctor visits for both physical and psychological illnesses.

• Therapeutic relaxation techniques:
  • Hypnosis Relaxation Therapy: Suggestion Therapy Hypnotherapy Treatment can be used to first help an individual into Hypnosis a deep state of stress free relaxation and then hypnotic suggestions can be administered by the therapist to encourage calmness and relaxation in their life such that their stress resilience is improved in their life when they are later out of Hypnosis.

The above methods are usually used only occasionally, as and when the need arises, at times when the person finds that they feel that they want, or need, to relax, but are finding relaxation difficult e.g.

• Maybe they have difficulty sleeping and want to fall asleep quickly and easily at night.
• Or maybe they want to have their mind focussed on what they are doing at an upcoming recreational or social event.
• Or maybe they want to enjoy some relaxation before some stressful period that they know will be coming up in their calendar.
• Or maybe they want to enjoy some relaxation, to help them to unwind after some stressful period that they have just experienced.

However the relaxation techniques all require time - which may not be available at the time that the need arises. And making that time available, as and when required, may actually create stress elsewhere in their lives, stress that they don't need. For example, if you are caught up with a minor bump with another car at a roundabout there simply isn't the time for you to say to the other driver "Hang on and I'll talk to you about this in 30 minutes time, after I've listened to my Relaxation CD" - instead you need to be already in a more relaxed state so that you are able to deal with such problems there and then, calmly and immediately, as and when they arise.

Also, the relaxation techniques listed above can only ever be a temporary fix - and they don't really change anything, not permanently anyway.

If you are someone who finds it difficult to relax, and who would like to be able to relax more easily, such that relaxation just happens for you normally and naturally, without you even having to consciously change your behaviour or consciously try to relax, what you need to do is to have a few sessions of Peter's unique therapeutic Hypnosis therapy - this therapy will lower your tension, anxiety and stress levels and help you to a more relaxed state.

You will be left feeling much more calm and relaxed in your day to day life, so that you are now back in control of your thoughts and behaviour - no longer maybe pushing yourself forward to the point where you are maybe tired and exhausted, and close to 'burn-out'. Instead you will now be back in control of your thoughts, feelings, and behaviour. And, importantly, you now become able to enjoy the company of friends and colleagues at social gatherings.

Peter's unique therapeutic Hypnosis treatment can help you to put yourself back in control of your thoughts, feelings and behaviour, such that your old problem of not being able to relax just dissolves away, and it becomes just one of those problems that you used to have.

Your difficulty in relaxing will become a problem that you used to have, back in the past. And a problem that you don't have any more - because Peter's unique therapeutic Hypnosis treatment therapy will change you, and you will become a calmer and more relaxed person.

Contact Peter now to book a free initial consultation to find out more about this successful and effective therapy. Peter is confident that he can help your relaxation problem quickly, and in just a few therapy treatment sessions.

We all have things going on in our lives that may occupy our minds from time to time, but significant problems can arise when we are no longer in control of our thoughts, feelings and behaviour such that we are no longer able to do even the most undemanding and basic human activity - enjoying relaxation !

When the problem of not being able to relax leads to sleepless nights, people can wake up tired and exhausted in the morning, and start to fall asleep during the day, the following day - and lack of sleep can lead to health problems as well as 'just' tiredness and fatigue.

And whilst a difficulty in relaxing may be not too onerous or noticeable when young, it can become more and more of a problem with the passage of time, as the body becomes older and more frail and less able to keep up with the demands being made on it by the mind.

And the difficulty of not being able to be 'there', in the 'here and now', in the present, enjoying the company of colleagues and friends in social situations, can also lead to increasing frustration with attending such social situations and the eventual withdrawal from meeting colleagues and friends in such social situations, and can lead to eventual social isolation.

If you are someone who finds it difficult to relax, and who would like to be able to relax more easily, such that relaxation just happens for you normally and naturally, without you even having to change your behaviour or consciously try to relax, what you need to do is to have several sessions of Peter's unique therapeutic Hypnosis therapy - Peter's therapy will help you and will lower your tension, anxiety and stress levels.

You will be left feeling much more calm and relaxed in your day to day life, so that you are now back in control of your thoughts, feelings and behaviour - no longer pushing yourself forward to the point where you are maybe tired and exhausted, and close to 'burn-out' - or maybe progressively withdrawing from social situations because you find it difficult to live your life in the present and in the 'here and now'.

Instead you will now be back in control of your thoughts, feelings, and behaviour. And, importantly, you now sleep more easily and become able to enjoy the company of friends and colleagues at social gatherings.

Peter's unique therapeutic Hypnosis treatment can help you to put yourself back in control of your thoughts, feelings and behaviour, such that your old problem of not being able to relax just dissolves away, and it becomes just one of those problems that you used to have.

Your difficulty in relaxing will become a problem that you used to have, back in the past. And a problem that you don't have any more - because Peter's unique therapeutic Hypnosis treatment therapy will change you, and you will become a calmer and more relaxed person.

Contact Peter now to book a free initial consultation to find out more about this successful and effective therapy. Peter is confident that he can help your relaxation problem quickly, and in just a few therapy treatment sessions.